A Gentle Reminder on Lyn Boundaries

I know I’ve covered this before, but…

Phrasing is really, really important when dealing with a Lyn, especially a stressed/sick/tired one. (Which all of the above I am, right now).

Thus: should is a bad word. Unless you are directly trying to instill a sense of obligation in me (there are situations in which this is okay), please do not use it. It will stress me the fuck out, because I do not have room for that many more obligations right now. Why don’t you… is almost as bad.

I would like it if is a nice phrasing. That’s a gentle one, that doesn’t make me feel battered upon.

Have you considered/thought about… is nice, too.

This will make it easier for me to deal with you, and cause me less stress in the long run.

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0 thoughts on “A Gentle Reminder on Lyn Boundaries

  1. I hope things improve soon. And thank you twice: first for warning your fans/readers of what sets you off, and second for doing it so… nicely. I hope to get to that reading and feedback Real Soon Now.

  2. I totally agree. If this was a public post I would ask if I can repost it because you say many things that I have failed to explain about myself. I will, instead, contemplate paraphrasing and not mentioning you more than “an LJFriend in a f-locked post said something about…” *hugs*

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